This past week I got to attend a school program for Brynn and Lily.

For the better part of an hour, I watched them stand with their classmates and recite Scripture, poems, and other pieces they had learned. Then they sang.

One thing after another.

And they never missed a word.

I sat there amazed, partly because my memory is not nearly that good anymore, but mostly because I started thinking about all the other things they could have spent that time learning.

There is no shortage of information we can pour into a child.

Facts. Dates. Formulas. Technology. Skills they will need someday. Plenty of it matters.

But childhood only gives us so many hours.

And every hour we spend teaching something is quietly saying, This is worth knowing. This is worth remembering.

That struck me.

Because those kids weren’t simply learning words for a school program. Somebody had decided those words were worth putting deep enough into their minds that they could stand on a stage and say them without thinking.

“Your word I have hidden in my heart, That I might not sin against You.” Psalm 119:11 NKJV

Maybe that is what teaching really is.

Deciding what is important enough to hide somewhere deep.

And it made me wonder about the rest of us.

We may be finished with school, but we are still memorizing things every day. We rehearse worries. Opinions. Offenses. Ambitions. Things the world tells us matter.

Repeat something long enough and eventually you don’t even need the page anymore.

You know it by heart.

Which makes the question worth asking:

What am I learning by heart?

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Every Friday, I’ll reach back and repost one of the First Light articles that connected with readers the most. Some of these were written more than a year ago, but the ideas still feel just as relevant today.

I thought this was a good one to start with.

The Balance Trap

I’ve sat on both sides of the interview table more times than I can count.

Over the years, a few management candidates have kicked things off by saying, “Work-life balance is essential to me.”

I hear that sometimes.

And honestly, it’s usually code for, “I want to work when it fits into my schedule.”

I get it. But most of the time, they didn’t get the job.

Because leadership doesn’t wait for your ideal schedule. It’s not clean. It’s not predictable. And it rarely shows up when it’s easy.

Here’s the tension.

Your family matters. A lot. They should never come second to your occupation. Not for a title, not for a paycheck, not for anyone’s approval.

But leading well will cost something.

Sometimes that cost is comfort. Sometimes it’s time. Sometimes it’s being present when you’d rather check out.

When you’re the leader, people depend on you. At work and at home.

And showing up for both requires more than attempted balance.

Here is a hard truth: Balance is a myth. When you chase it, you’re stretched in both directions, and it becomes almost impossible to give your best to either side.

Life moves in rhythms.

Sometimes family needs more of you. Other times, work does. It shifts, and that’s okay.

You gain control of your life when you stop trying to do it all and start doing the right things, one at a time.

Rhythms of focus. Rhythms of rest.

Completely invested wherever the moment meets you.

You won’t always get it perfect. I know I don’t.

But if you are fully present in your work environment and around your dinner table, you’re already doing better than you think.

Balance might be a trap. But showing up intentionally, fully engaged, and ready to serve?

Well, that’s the difference between just filling a seat and actually changing the room.

That’s the kind of leadership everyone remembers.

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I’m a talker. I love a good conversation, and I can talk to almost anybody. Airports are actually pretty good places for that because everybody is going somewhere, and usually there is a story behind where they are going.

But some people have the look.

You know exactly what I mean. Eyes straight ahead. Earbuds in. Phone out. Very little eye contact. They are doing everything possible to let the rest of us know they have absolutely no interest in meeting anybody new today.

And honestly, I get it. I’m sure there are plenty of times I have the look too. Sometimes you are tired. Sometimes you have talked enough. Sometimes you just want to get on the plane and go home.

But I started thinking about how often I probably have the look when I’m not traveling.

There are times I see somebody who could use some help, but I’m busy. Or I notice somebody who seems to be having a rough day, but I’ve got somewhere to be. I know that if I stop and ask how they are doing, they might actually tell me.

And then I might have to do something.

So I keep moving.

That bothered me a little when I thought about it.

Jesus told the story of the Good Samaritan, and one thing I sometimes forget is that the people who passed the injured man before the Samaritan weren’t unaware of him. They saw him. They just didn’t stop.

I wonder how many things I see every day that I don’t really stop long enough to see.

Most of the time, helping somebody probably isn’t going to require anything heroic. It may just mean being willing to have my day interrupted for a few minutes.

Maybe putting the phone down. Making eye contact. Asking the question.

And being willing to stick around long enough to hear the answer.

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Execution has always required a little more effort. Over the years, I have learned to compensate just enough to keep my head above water and my projects moving.

This is especially true with home projects. I tell myself I am smart enough to figure things out. My hands, however, don’t always agree with the brain doing the thinking.

Something that should take an hour can consume an entire Saturday. A weekend project can become a familiar part of the scenery while I reconsider my approach.

My friend Kevin used to work for me when I owned a small burger restaurant. Occasionally, I would take on a repair myself. A drain pipe needed fixing, and I was a reasonably intelligent man with access to tools. What else could possibly be required?

Fine workmanship, apparently.

Kevin would look at my work. Then he would look at me.

“I’m going to start calling you Bob Vila.”

There are compliments you have to think about for a minute. This wasn’t one of them.

I still laugh about that. Kevin recognized something my enthusiasm routinely overlooked: there is a considerable distance between understanding what needs to happen and being able to make it happen well.

There is intelligence in practiced hands. There is knowledge in knowing how much pressure to apply, where to make the cut, and when to leave something alone. I tend to admire the finished work while underestimating everything a person had to learn to produce it.

Paul wrote, “And the eye cannot say to the hand, ‘I have no need of you’” (1 Corinthians 12:21, NKJV).

God gave us different gifts, and I think part of appreciating those gifts is admitting where our own abilities run out. I can have the vision. I can learn and keep trying. I can also call someone whose hands know what mine are still figuring out.

I will probably always be an idea guy. I like looking at something unfinished and imagining what it could become. I am learning to give more respect to the people who know how to bring it to life.

Somewhere in that space, Kevin is looking at a drain pipe.

If this made you think of someone whose skill you admire, share it with them. Better yet, tell them.

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I love it.

Punch in the code. Little beep. Door opens. No key required.

Very 2026.

Except somebody had locked the other lock.

So there I stood, outside my own house, confidently entering the correct code over and over again as if the fourth attempt might somehow convince the door that I was, in fact, the owner.

It did not.

Apparently all my technology had been defeated by a fairly ordinary piece of brass.

I started laughing because that feels a lot like life.

I like codes. Formulas. Cause and effect. Do this, get that. Work hard. Make good decisions. Treat people right. Pray. Plan. Think it through.

Surely the door opens.

Except sometimes it doesn’t.

There is another lock you didn’t know about. Somebody changed something. The plan that made perfect sense yesterday suddenly doesn’t work today.

And I really don’t like that.

Proverbs 16:9 says, “A man’s heart plans his way, But the LORD directs his steps.” NKJV

I believe that verse.

I just occasionally wish God would send me the updated access code.

Maybe faith is partly accepting that I am never going to have every key.

I can plan. I should plan.

But sometimes I am still going to end up standing on the porch wondering how in the world I got locked out of my own house.

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I have lived long enough to learn a million ways to end up somewhere I don’t belong.

A considerable number of those dead ends began when I tried to be someone other than who I was created to be. All the while thinking that was who I really was.

Being transparent here, I struggled with this for a very long time.

For years, I’m not sure I really had my own belief system. I had inherited one. I knew what I was supposed to say. I knew how I was supposed to act. I knew the language. I knew the secret handshakes.

So I went through the motions and hoped nobody noticed.

And somewhere deep down, I suppose I thought if I faked it well enough, maybe even God wouldn’t know the difference.

That sounds ridiculous when I write it.

God knew.

He also knew the person underneath all of it.

Psalm 139 says, “For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb.” Psalm 139:13 NKJV

There is something freeing about realizing God never asked me to become somebody else. He already knew exactly who He created.

I still catch myself comparing. Performing. Trying to become the version of me I think other people will appreciate more.

But I’m learning.

The closer I get to God, the less interested I am in pretending.

So maybe, just maybe, you feel the same way.

Maybe you have been trying to be someone else’s version of who you should be.

My advice would be pretty simple.

Just stop.

You can spend a lifetime becoming someone everybody else approves of and still completely miss the person God created you to be.

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The good guys I remember from childhood were not conflicted. They were good. Really good. They wore the white hat, saved the day, and almost always knew exactly what the right thing was. Even if they didn’t, they usually figured it out by the end of the book.

And the bad guys, well, they were really bad.

There usually wasn’t much redeeming about the baddie. You knew who to cheer for before the opening chapter was finished.

Today, things are a little different.

Somewhere along the way, the lines between good and bad became blurry. Sometimes it feels like we have become so determined to understand everyone, that we are afraid to call anything wrong.

Now, real life is certainly more complicated than Louis L’Amour. Good people make bad decisions. Broken people can do beautiful things. Every one of us is capable of both.

I have made enough awful decisions in my own life to know that grace is real. And I am deeply thankful God does not define me by my worst moments, my worst decisions, or even my worst seasons.

But grace does not require us to pretend that wrong is right.

Paul wrote, “Abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good.” Romans 12:9 NKJV

That sounds remarkably clear.

We should have compassion for people. We should understand their stories. We should leave plenty of room for redemption because all of us need it.

But maybe we still need a few lines we refuse to erase.

Grace is here with us. Goodness is abundant.

But so is evil.

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They were not particularly good at it.

Sometimes they would hide right out in the open. But I would walk around pretending I couldn’t find them, and honestly, I had almost as much fun as they did.

Apparently, I can overlook things in plain sight without their help.

There have been times in business when I’ve spent a crazy amount of effort fixing smaller problems while a much bigger one sat right in front of me. It had been there so long that I had gotten used to it. Somewhere along the way, I had accepted it.

I’ve said, “That’s just how we do things,” more than once. I’ve probably used “That’s just how I am” even more.

Once I say that, I tend to stop asking whether anything needs to change.

David prayed, “Search me, O God, and know my heart.” Psalm 139:23 NKJV.

That’s an uncomfortable prayer when the answer might be something I’ve been excusing for years.

I’m asking God to help me take another look at the things I’ve learned to live with, in my business, my relationships, and myself.

Some of them probably should have been dealt with a long time ago. And unlike the grands, they won’t come running out just because I announce it’s time for a snack.

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For many people, it’s cheap. A bargain. The lowest price.

But that’s not really value.

I’ve learned that some of the best values in my life have been the things that cost me the most.

A good mattress costs more than a cheap one, but if it helps you sleep well for ten years, it was a bargain.

A reliable car costs more than one that’s always in the repair shop.

Hiring the right employee is more expensive than hiring the cheapest one, but one great person can accomplish what several average ones never will.

Real value isn’t about spending less.

It’s about getting more.

More life. More peace. More joy. More usefulness. More years. More impact.

The same is true spiritually.

Following Christ costs us something. Jesus never hid that fact. It requires surrender, forgiveness, humility, and sometimes giving up things we would rather keep.

But what we receive is infinitely greater than what we give.

Jesus said, “Again, the kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field, which a man found and hid; and for joy over it he goes and sells all that he has and buys that field.” Matthew 13:44 (NKJV)

The world teaches us to ask, “What’s the cheapest way?”

Maybe the better question is, “What’s the greatest value?”

Sometimes the things that cost the most end up giving us the most.

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I am on more than I care to admit.

And to be fair, committees can do some good. They are especially useful when they have a narrow, clearly defined purpose. Review something. Organize something. Make a recommendation. Solve a specific problem.

But committees were never meant to lead.

And God forbid, be innovative.

Innovation usually begins with somebody seeing something differently before everyone else does. Leadership often requires somebody being willing to move before there is complete agreement.

Committees, by their nature, tend to pull toward consensus. And consensus has a strange way of sanding the edges off good ideas until everyone is comfortable with something nobody is particularly excited about.

There is wisdom in counsel. Proverbs says, “Where there is no counsel, the people fall; But in the multitude of counselors there is safety.” Proverbs 11:14 NKJV

But counsel and leadership are not the same thing.

Listen to people. Seek wisdom. Invite disagreement. Ask good questions.

Then somebody still has to decide. Somebody still needs to bring the fresh idea. Somebody still needs to take the chance.

Some things can be managed by committee.

Vision rarely can.

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I joined CrossFit.

Anyone who has spent much time around me probably knows just how surprising that sentence is. Saying I have never been much of a workout guy is a fairly significant understatement.

I do not exactly look like I belong there. But somehow, I actually enjoy it.

There is one small problem.

I am almost always sore.

One week it is my quads. The next it is my glutes. Then my arms. Some days, apparently just for efficiency, it is all of the above.

And yet I feel better than I have in a very long time.

That sounds a little backward. How can something that regularly makes you hurt also make you healthier?

Because not all pain is telling you to stop.

Some pain is evidence that something weak is getting stronger.

I think we forget that in the rest of life. We naturally avoid discomfort. Hard conversations. Discipline. Change. Admitting we were wrong. Letting go of something familiar. We assume pain means something has gone wrong.

Sometimes it does.

But sometimes pain is simply the feeling of growth.

Hebrews 12:11 “Now no chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.”

I am learning that soreness and injury are not the same thing.

Apparently that is true well beyond CrossFit.

Some pain needs healing. Some pain is helping.

Wisdom is learning the difference.

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Immediately I thought, “Wow, we need rain.”

Then my mind went back to spring, when it seemed like it rained every single day. I was getting frustrated with that, too.

Apparently, I’m a difficult customer.

I wanted the green grass and the pretty flowers. I just had some strong opinions about the watering schedule.

The same thing I was tired of then was exactly what I was hoping for now. The rain hadn’t changed. My appreciation for it had.

I wonder how often I do that with God. Enjoy what He provides while complaining about the way He provides it. Ask Him to grow something in my life, then question why the conditions aren’t more comfortable.

Standing there looking at those flowers, it was pretty obvious that my preference for sunshine wasn’t the only thing worth considering.

Maybe I could remember that the next time I’m explaining to God how things ought to go.

Let it rain, Lord. I’ll try not to offer so much supervision.

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