Each Friday, I’ve been going back and sharing one of my favorite First Light posts from the past year.
This one is about something I still have to remind myself of.
The More Myth
I’ve heard people say, “You can have it all.”
The truth is, I can’t. None of us can.
I can’t be the top performer at work, the most present parent, the most devoted church member, and the volunteer on every school committee.
I’ve tried to wear too many hats before. It looks impressive on the surface. People admire the hustle. But underneath, cracks form. Rest disappears. Patience thins.
The people I love most get what’s left of me instead of the best of me.
If I try to do everything, I end up doing nothing particularly well.
Life demands choices. Every yes comes with a no. Every role pulls energy from somewhere else. And if I don’t choose carefully, the wrong things eventually find their way into first place.
That’s why order matters. God first. Then family. Then everything else.
Not because the rest doesn’t matter. It does. But when good things replace the first things, they can do real damage to your soul. They begin demanding more of you than they were ever intended to.
That’s the trap of more. More always promises meaning. It rarely delivers.
We start believing that more roles, more yeses, more activity, more accomplishments somehow add up to a more meaningful life.
Jesus never asked me to be everything to everyone. He asked me to love Him with all my heart. To love the people He placed closest to me well. To stop chasing the illusion of having it all and start living aligned with what matters most.
So I’m learning to pause before I say yes. What will this cost? And who pays the price if I take this on?
I don’t want to gain the world and lose my soul. I don’t want to be busy everywhere and absent where it counts.
Because in the end, you can’t have it all. But you can have what matters most.
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