The Things We Can’t Fix

I tend to go straight into fix mode.

Something’s off, I feel it immediately.
My mind starts working.
What can I do, who do I call, how do we get this back where it should be?

That’s worked for me in a lot of areas.

But not everything works that way.

Some things just sit there.
You can push on them, think about them, pray about them, circle them over and over… and nothing really moves.

And if I’m honest, that bothers me more than the problem itself.

Because fixing feels like progress.
Even if it’s messy, at least you’re doing something.

But there are situations where doing more doesn’t help.
It just wears you down.

People you can’t change.
Outcomes you can’t force.
Conversations that aren’t ready to happen.

I’ve stepped into some of those anyway.

Took responsibility for things that were never really mine.
Carried weight I wasn’t built to carry.
And then wondered why it felt so heavy.

I’m starting to realize… some things aren’t broken in a way I can fix.

They’re just not mine.

That doesn’t mean I don’t care.
It just means I’m not in control of the outcome.

And maybe that’s where trust actually starts.

Not when everything gets resolved.
But when I stop trying to force it.

Lately I’ve been asking a better question.

Is this mine to carry?

Because not everything that lands in front of me was handed to me.

Some of it… I just picked up.

And maybe peace looks like putting some of it back down.

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